The way I see my expression of kink and the group sex community is by sharing, constantly sharing. There's a lot of learning with people, learning about new kinks or fetishes, or just pure psychology or human relationships or just growing.
I want to be used by other people, for them to explore theirs and for it to be an accessible opportunity for them to explore it. I think that's what gives me the biggest kick is them being able to tick off something that they've always wanted to try.
Learn as much as possible about your own body before listening to any external tip. Which are of course useful, especially coming from experts, but listen to your body, listen to your intuition, emotionally and physically.